– Hey Psych2Goers, we hope you're doing well and are finding time for self-care. Let's begin. Are you your own worst enemy? Do you have high hopes
and goals for the future, but find yourself falling behind? Self-sabotage comes in many forms and inhibits you from getting
what you want out of life, but how can we stop sabotaging ourselves? Well, here are five ways. Quick disclaimer. The information in this video
is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for
professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All content contained in this video is for general informational purposes only, and does not replace a consultation with your doctor or mental
health professional. Let's begin. Number one, reframe your state of mind. When you get a bad grade
on a test, how do you feel? Are you down on yourself
for not knowing the answers, feeling that you aren't good enough? Psychologist Judy Ho developed a chart that showcases how your
interpretation of an event affects your feelings.
Ultimately leading to how you act. By taking a step back and
looking at each component, you can better find different causes that lead to certain actions. Once you have an understanding
of this chain reaction, you can better find ways to change your outlook on situations. Perhaps instead of feeling down
on yourself for a bad grade, you think of it from the perspective that you weren't prepared enough and can take steps to get
a better grade next time.
This is a growth mindset and
allows you to view failures as opportunities to learn and develop rather than bring you down. Number two, work on your self-worth. Do you believe that you don't
deserve the things you want, that your hopes and dreams
are better off going to someone else? With a self-sabotaging mindset you may also have a low
sense of self-worth. Organizational psychologist
Courtney Ackerman described self-worth as our tendency to evaluate our abilities
and how we perform our roles. She outlines what does not
determine yourself worth that we generally hold in high value. Things like your job, age, grades, or the number of friends among many others should not determine how you view yourself and what you will be able to accomplish.
Rather, you should focus
on what makes you happy and what you find fulfilling. Working towards what you truly want versus what society wants out of you and finding your own meaning of self-worth can go a long way. Number three, find a
strong support network. Do you find yourself getting
stuck from time to time, that you want to go down
a certain life path, but don't know where to start? Getting the things you want out of life can seem extremely daunting and be next to impossible to do alone. Finding and surrounding yourself with the right group of
people, mentors, and friends, to help support you will help you develop a strong support network. If you find yourself stuck, it can be easy to stay there, which is why it's important to find the right people that
understand your situation to help propel you forward.
Number four, break down your goals and celebrate small victories. Are you finding yourself
setting large goals, but you never achieve them? Or perhaps you push your ideas
off for as long as you can. According to psychologist,
Dr. Melanie Greenberg, one form of self-sabotage
is procrastination. Sometimes your need to get
it right makes you nervous. So you push off your task
until the last minute. You then sacrifice quality
in order to get it done. It can help to vary up your goals and celebrate the small
victories you have.
Instead of embarking on
doing one large project all at one time, you could break your large
goal into smaller goals and treat yourself as you
accomplish them one at a time while learning along the way. And this helps develop a growth mindset, which allows you to focus
more on improving yourself and growing your skills over time, rather than getting stuck
on the bigger picture. Celebrating small victories
and opportunities to learn can help motivate you for larger goals and make these daunting
tasks seem more manageable. And number five, talk it out. Do you feel that it's troublesome
to communicate your needs to your significant others? It can feel incredibly difficult to open up to another person. However, you may feel trapped by keeping your emotions inside. When you notice yourself going into a self-sabotaging behavior, it can help to talk with
a trusted person about it. Telling another person about what behavior you're taking part in can help discourage you
from taking part in it. So finding someone who
will listen and comfort you can help you get out of the
self-destructive rabbit hole.
As always, if you find that your
self-sabotaging behaviors are significantly hurting you, it may be worth finding a
mental health professional to talk with. Self-sabotaging behaviors can turn you into your worst enemy. These tendencies can be hard to recognize and treat on your own. However, recognizing areas for improvement and finding the right
support network will help you on your path for self-improvement. Did you find this video helpful? Let us know in the comments down below.
Remember to reach out to
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